Congratulations, President Barack Hussein Obama

First Family

Our elders have looked for you in the faces of our Little Ones down thru the Generations
“Are You the One? Are You the One?”
And now - here you are – by way of Kenya and Kansas.

You make us proud, and we hope you are proud to be one of us.
We have held tight to our hopes and tears as we hid away our dreams;
scattered, decimated and dried to Raisins – yet, still we waited with shaded expectancy - for your arrival.

We understand that you alone cannot be our Greatest Hope. It does take a village, we know. But on this, Your Special Day, you touched our sacred spot – reserved for heroes and sheroes - as you honored our oft forgotten treasures, from the Tuskegee Airmen to Muhammad Ali, at the forefront welcome seats!

My God, it gave us a Blanket Pardon Day: allowed us to release forgiveness and forgetfulness for unrighted wrongs: from near-genocide of the Middle Passage to the current brutalities inflicted onto us by others and by our own. That’s the specialty of Blanket Pardon Days: we forgive others and ourselves. The weight lifted is almost unmeasureable. Our smiles rival those of our brother hero: ALS patient, Astro-physical genius Stephen Hawking as he experienced NASA weightlessness that freed his body from the ravages of disease. On this day, we too believe we can fly!

Thank you for your courage and insight. Thank you for your intelligence and willingness to share your love of family, duty and country.

Your Family – by way of Africa and America

Happy Birthday To Ya!

MARTIN LUTHER KING, JR.

January 15, 1929 - April 4, 1968

80 years

Civil Rights Leader

Husband

Father

Son

Orator

Nobel Peace Prize Winner

Baptist Minister

Man With a Dream

Long Live the King!

7 Steps to Happily Ever After With Your Lover

Black Love

I was looking at old pictures and feeling good about all the couples I saw, so I threw together this quick guide:

The 7 Steps to Happily Ever After With Your Lover

Step 1: Find a shared dream for your life together.

Step 2: Ignite (and reignite) a sexual connection.

Step 3: You and Your Lover are TEAM 1!

Step 4: Fight Fair.

Step 5: Establish time

    a) Just for Two and
    b) Just for You.

Step 6: In-Laws, family and friends are Team 2!

Step 7: Establish Lifetime Friendship with each other.

    Surprise each other.
    Work together.
    Pray together.
    Play together.

The Cost of Unhealthy Fear

Fear

Unhealthy Fear is such a useless and harmful emotion. It clouds our minds and hearts and robs us of our joy…

Did you know what the true enemy of God is? Satan or Lucifer? Not really; he was once favored. Hatred? No, too close to love – like the opposite sides of the same coin.

Ok, you guessed right, it is unhealthy fear; an irrational, emotional response to illogical threat and/or danger.

Fear is healthy when we are faced with real threats and immediate dangers.
Sistah Saints know when to fight or flight with the best of them – We have all lamented, “Hold my earrings for me til I finish up here.” Or “Feet don’t fail me now!

But that internal, churning fear that makes us unhappy and gives paralysis to our willpower – in other words, Stops us in our Tracks – that, is unhealthy fear. The unhealthy fear that gives us brain freeze and separates us from God because where fear lives, God cannot dwell.

Most of our present fears are rooted in what Buddhism identifies as “delusions” – distorted ways of looking at ourselves and the world around us. If we learn to control our mind, and reduce and eventually eliminate these delusions, the source of all our fear, healthy and unhealthy, is eradicated.

Seek help, therapy, good advice when it comes to unhealthy fear. Talk it out. Set Goals. Defeat the Enemy (Unhealthy Fear).

Once we have done this, we become fearless.